I am frequently asked to give references to people and I am someone who is kind of funny about references and letters of recommendation. I have a hard time giving someone a reference or letter of recommendation unless I have complete confidence that they can do the job or task. Thankfully, our company has a policy against employees providing references, so that gives me an easy out when it comes to a work reference. When it comes to personal references; however, I never quite know what to say when someone asks and I am not comfortable giving one.
Sometimes I am completely honest and say that I am not comfortable doing that. Unfortunately, that typically leads to more questions. Sometimes, I go ahead and give the reference, but keep it extremely generic.
What would you do if someone asked you for a reference or letter of recommendation and you weren't comfortable giving it?